Life is busy. It really is. I know this is true for me, and I’m betting it is for you, too! Because I see so many of you kick-ass ladies out there busting your butts all the time online!
We’re juggling so much in life: family, work, passion projects, friends, self-development, health and more. Am-I-riiiight?!
I know I’ve been playing this delicate juggling game for so long, and for so long I kept failing. No matter how hard I tried, how organized I thought I was, everything would fall apart. And it was never just one part of my life, but everything! All of it would come crashing down around me at once, and still, I’d get up and start juggling again without ever questioning it.
Last year I was working part-time at a job that caused me a lot of anxiety. I was taking on every and any freelance gig I could get, regardless of what it paid or if I even enjoyed it. I was even forcing myself to blog five times a week, even if my content seemed lackluster and lame. And I did all of this because I thought I had to, even though it was far too much. As soon as winter break came around I was beyond burnt out, I was friggin’ exhausted!
My mental health and physical health were completely shot and after months, er, years, of pushing myself I was finally forced to take a break. And it was during that time of peace and quiet I finally asked myself, why? Why was I doing so much work that I didn’t want to and didn’t even need to do?
Like a lot of people, the reason I kept pushing myself was because I thought it would somehow launch me forward in life; I have big goals, and I’m anxious to achieve them. When I finally slowed down enough to ask myself all those why questions, though, I realized that I didn’t have good enough answers. My heart wasn’t in the majority of it and it was really just a waste of my time and energy. For example, blogging crappy content five times a week wasn’t going to increase my pageviews or help me continue to build relationships online.
When I sat down to start planning my goals for the year it was clear that a lot of the things I was doing had no connection to what I was trying to achieve. I clearly needed to take some time to think about what I wanted, and why I wanted it.
It’s helps to understand why you’re doing something to see whether or not it’s even worth doing.
So, looking at all of the tasks and responsibilities I had taken on, I realized I had to make some big changes.
So ask yourself: why?
All of this to say, it’s important to ask yourself why you do the things you do. Do they bring you joy? Are they helping to shape your future or achieve your goals? Is there a better way to spend your time and still accomplish those things? Because if they aren’t, maybe it’s time to do things differently.
I encourage you to sit down for an hour or so and really consider what it is you want in life and why. Then take a look at all of the things you are currently doing and again ask yourself why. If those things don’t line up, it might be time to reevaluate your day-to-day activities. Knowing the answers to these questions can help you achieve ultimate success while maintaining your sanity and overall happiness. True story.
What’s your why? Why do you do the things you do? And do you think there’s a better way?
P.S. Sidney took these photos of me (other than my awkward selfie!) and I’m pretty dang proud of her! Even if I’m self-conscious of my awkward posed smile ha ha!