For most of my life I’ve dressed in sloppy band tees, ripped jeans and plain, black zip-up hoodies. And while I’m not ready to ditch those threads, I really want to start having fun with my wardrobe and personal style.

It might sound cliche, but it’s true: your personal appearance should be an expression of yourself, a creative way of showing the world who you are.

Yet I’ve always been more about comfort than looks, convinced it was either or. I’m ready to admit that achieving both at the same time is completely possible. Because, let’s be real here, guys, style is subjective! What I think is totally rad, you might not, and that’s totally okay. Besides, jeggings exist now, and for that I will be forever grateful.

When I was a teenager I used to watch What Not To Wear from time-to-time and would joke to my mom that she had to submit a video of me. Meanwhile, I was working away on my sewing machine in the basement, altering my second-hand scores into something more… punk rock? Turning bell-bottoms into “cigarette” pants, over-sized t-shirts into tight tank-tops, and painting band logos on patches and jackets. It was a much more fun and simple time back in high school, when I was more into experimenting with my look rather than trying to look “professional” and “grownup”.

In all seriousness, I have no idea how to dress myself. Or maybe I do, but I’ve been too busy being a lame, lazy bum who’s too busy making up excuses and whining about it, rather than doing something to change it.

Earlier this year I decided I was going to make some major changes in my life. One of those changes was deciding not to drink alcohol any more. I’m also attempting to go vegan, launching an official virtual assistant business and so much more. I’m not just talkin’ the talk, but walkin’ the walk! And one of the many things I’ve been wanting to work on has been developing my own personal style (which is currently a lot of stripes and blue jeans).

So, no more excuses! It’s time to get started.

I’ve narrowed it down to three main excuses I’ve been using. Maybe you’ve been using these excuses, too. If so, let’s work on it together!

“I don’t know how to shop for my body type.”

I’m calling bullshit on myself. While I agree that there are certain styles that are more “flattering” on specific body shapes, I think it’s total bullshit that people limit themselves to that.

It’s time to stop being a hypocrite and just buy what I like. So maybe I’m “curvy” and squishy and I have short legs. If I want to wear tight skinny jeans I’ll damn well wear them! I don’t care if my “body shape” would look better in boot-cut pants. I’d rather go naked. So there!

I’ve also been told to avoid busy patterns, wear a lot of darker colours, try to accentuate my figure … Nah. I don’t want to do that.

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“I’m too shy to wear the bold, colourful clothes I actually want to wear.”

I always told myself I didn’t care what other people thought, but I secretly do care. Instead of using that mentality to dress the way I wanted, I used it as an excuse to wear baggy t-shirts and dirty jeans each day, basically, as an excuse to not bother trying.

But, yes, I am shy. And yes, sometimes I feel a little uncomfortable wearing bright colours, glitter and sequins out in public. But the truth is, I enjoy wearing bold, colourful clothes that sparkle, so maybe pushing myself out of my comfort zone is needed!

It’s good to try new things, even if it scares you at first. Especially if it scares you!

“I don’t have/want to spend a lot of money on clothes and accessories.”

This is 100 per cent true for me. I don’t have a lot of money to spend on clothes, and even when I do, I don’t want to spend it on clothes. BUT, as an avid thrift shopper, I know that there are a lot of ways to find awesome outfits for little money.

Not only that, but developing your own personal style takes time. It isn’t going to be one big shopping spree, but a few little shopping trips here and there while you work out the kinks. It’s about experimenting and trying new things, getting creative and slowly building up a wardrobe you’re excited about!

Which is what I’ve been doing for the past couple months.

Still, I have a long way to go. Still working on that comfort level thing, still pushing myself to accept my appearance, still trying to figure out who I am and all that blah, blah, blah. I’ll get there.

I’m thinking I might add a style section to my blog. I’m curious to start playing around with it, try new things and share my thoughts. What do you think?

Have you developed your own personal style? How would you describe it? Or are you still working on it? Or do you even care?

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  1. Southern & Style Reply

    It has taken so long for me to be comfortable in my own skin and to learn to wear whatever the heck I want to. When I was in high school, all of my friends were teeny tiny and I already was curvy and athletically built, so I tried to squash myself into ill-fitting clothes to hide my curves. But now, I wear what I want because when I’m confident-I know I look better!

    xoxo, SS

    Southern And Style

  2. I love chosing fun clothes and outfits and playing with my style. It really makes a different. When I’m wearing a skirt or a dress ‘m instantly in a better mood and more self confident (though I like jeans too). And about the bold colors and patterns: the great thing about clothes is that they can actually influence how you feel. Try wearing bold colors and patterns and soon you will become a bold person. Just have fun and try new shapes and looks. It doesn’t have to cost a lot of money. I love thrift stores and flee markets too! And once you have a couple of exciting pieces you can try to combine them in different ways instead of buying new clothes.

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