Mother’s Day was just this past Sunday and my social media feeds filled with happy mamas, their little kiddos and the love they received! It was adorable, of course, but my own Mother’s Day was kept offline, where I felt it belonged.
I’ve never been big on showing off my own day-to-day life in that much detail, but mostly it’s because I want to respect my family’s privacy.
A couple weeks ago I was talking to Nick about an acquaintance of ours about how they never share anything about their kid, and I judged them on it. Like maybe it meant they never spent much time with their kid or something. And Nick said, “Neither of us posts about our daughter very often.”
And I was like, “Ooooooohhh shiiiiit! That’s true! I wonder if people assume I never spend time with my kid?” Which would be the understatement of the year. That kid is glued to my hip, whether I like it or not! But mostly I do, because we have wicked fun together 🙂
It’s funny how we can be so judgmental without even really thinking about it.
In all honesty, I share a heck of a lot of my own personal thoughts, my struggles and triumphs, and all the messy behind-the-scenes stuff that a lot of people won’t. Maybe even too much. But I don’t share much about my daughter, or even my husband.
And this is why you don’t see much of my daughter online:
Respecting her Privacy
The main reason is because I try to respect her privacy.
My first blog was a mommy blog, and I did share more about Sidney then, but it actually made me uncomfortable. I couldn’t help but compare a lot of those big mom blogs to those awkward scenes in movies, where moms show off their kids naked baby photos. Except a blog post is public and anyone can stumble on that story. And what would my kid think once she got older?
My Facebook friends don’t see much of Sid either, and that again has to do with respecting her privacy. But because my Facebook account is private, I do share more photos of Sidney there than other sites, but it’s still very limited.
I just feel it isn’t fair to her to share her life online.
Understanding the Consequences
While it’s simple enough to ask for my hubby’s permission to share his picture, or something he did or said, it’s entirely different when it comes to my daughter. She’s currently 9-years-old, and as a child, she doesn’t fully understand what it means to share something online. I’m sure she has an idea, but she doesn’t know all of the consequences.
There are consequences to sharing any kind of information online. For one, what if I post a picture of my daughter at school and some creepy recognizes it and starts coming around? Or what if someone takes her picture and puts it on one of those awful advertisements? Or what if kids in her class (who already have their own smart phones) find a way to bully her about it?
There are numerous consequences and I don’t want my daughter to have to deal with them because of something I posted.
I Just Don’t Want To
I have nothing against people who write about their own families, because that’s completely up to them and what they’re comfortable with, but I just don’t want to.
A lot of my mom friends share so many photos of their kids, from their cute sleeping faces to their first day of school, and I get it. They want a way to share those moments with their families and friends. And that’s fine. But I just don’t want to share those moments. Those are our moments. And I want to keep them for myself!
Do you have an opinion on parents posting about their children? Or are you a parent who shares posts about their kid online? Why or why not?